Hello, this is Priya Iyer. Welcome to Ten Thousand Journeys, where I explore the themes and stages of archetypal journeys through personal essays, poems, and books. I shared this post earlier in the year but, because there are many new readers who may not have read it, here it is again (this is a slightly revised version).
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Dear Reader,
I want to share an experience I had a few days ago. I was in the kitchen early in the morning. It was dark outside, darker because of daylight savings time. Strangely, I was awake earlier rather than later. I turned on the kitchen light, and instead of setting the pot for morning chai, I went to the window overlooking the backyard. I saw my reflection in the glass, part of my face, and the outline of my body. And this is where things get stranger. It was still and quiet both inside the house and outside. Looking at my reflection, I imagined myself opening my mouth wide as though yawning, a great big yawn. A crowd of small birds flew out of my mouth, their black bodies made invisible by the dark morning. I caught the occasional gleam of their hungry eyes and the sheen of their wings. They hovered in place like hummingbirds, a shimmering black cloud, both watchful and silent. And then, when I made no effort to call them back, they flew away.
Of course, I imagined this, but it felt profound. That part of the early morning felt like a liminal time when such an event was possible or expected. If a flock of birds residing in your chest cavity, or more likely, the pit of your stomach, is going to leave, this was the time they would do it. And, of course, they would linger in the air in case you changed your mind.
This imagined incident felt especially meaningful because I’d been thinking about my stories, the ones I held onto from long ago. I had reflected on them, ruminated endlessly, and talked about them at almost every opportunity. In the middle of the latest retelling, I realized I was tired of them. I didn’t want to take them out and parade them yet again. But, until this moment, I hadn’t been able to let them go either. After all, each bird was a story, and what is a writer without her favorite stories?
When we separate from old stories, and older versions of ourselves, we depart from that familiar world and enter a newer one. Departure is the first stage of archetypal journeys. The separation may be instantaneous, or it might be staggered over many stages. We may consciously make a choice to leave something behind, and a mundane example I can think of is when we decide to change a habit. And there are those times when we realize we have changed, without knowing how or when it happened, our old stories and limiting beliefs falling unnoticed like a shroud slipping off our shoulders.
Back in the kitchen, I turned back from the window. As I brewed my chai, I felt lighter, as though I had previously harbored birds within my body and now was emptied.
I wondered if I would need to do it again the next morning. I wondered how the birds got in without my noticing.
Reader, I would love to know what you think and how you’ve experienced departure.
Best,
Priya
Beautiful metaphor. Birds releasing along with old stories. I don’t have any release so poetic. Mine happens in meditation, prayer or tears.
Departures are almost always sad to me. I guess it's because I can get very attached to people, situations. When we left for Mexico, that was a happy departure. But I still felt that connection to the house that I'd lived in with Paul for 17 years. I think I'm just sentimental. Who knows why?